You know I have always been passionate about human rights for all but I was very passionate about the civil rights movement that started in the sixties. I just was. I studied it , read books and poetry about it. Tried to do what I could to live and love a certain way because of it. I was like this at a very young age. Because of that I am also very passionate about the black lives matter movement. I feel it is a natural extension of what our predecessors worked towards. I was posting something about the black lives matter Movement and someone said to me, well Why don’t you care about Jewish people? Well of course I do. What does that have to do with it. I get some form of that question a lot and I think it comes from a place of fear, anger and yes, even racism. I really don’t understand that question so I have trouble answering it. I mean to me it’s like going to a cancer benefit and screaming at everyone “don’t you care about AIDS”? Of course we care about AIDS but this is a cancer benefit today. Being that said there is something to be said for being passionate about one thing and really sinking your teeth into that one thing. Robert Redford, the fabulous actor and environmentalist activist once said that he didn’t really respect people that change up their cause and jump from one cause to another all the time. This comes from a man who has made an incredible shift in the world with his environmental efforts. His efforts have made ripple effects across the globe and it doesn’t mean he doesn’t support other causes or care about other causes but he listened to his own specific Dharma. His Dharma was the environment . Here is a picture of Redford on the set of A River Runs Through it. An amazing film that celebrated Nature. The river, family , free spirits and Fly fishing.
I mean we all support different causes but to be passionate about one thing and really try to make a difference with that one thing isn’t a bad way to go. There is nothing wrong with that. Then I saw it explained so perfectly by Ram Dass from his blog.
For each of us, you’ve got to be very quiet to hear your unique dharma, your unique way of expression.
Somebody comes along and their major thing in life is to regain the rights of indigenous peoples.
Someone else comes along and their major thing is to awaken people to environmental degradation.
Someone else comes along and their major thing is to clean up the incredible oppression of women.
It isn’t a question of which thing is worse, or which is more worthwhile. Each person has to hear what is their part in the whole process of how their compassion expresses itself.
I am doing this gig. This is my part. It’s no better than your part, it’s just my part. I’m not under some illusion that I have a different part and I honor everybody else’s part, I just have to constantly keep listening to hear what my part is anew.
There is no rule book about this.
We are all on the edge of having to listen freshly all the time. When your children are little you hear theDharmaone way, and as they grow you hear it another way, because you listen freshly. The plane at which all the dualities exist is relativity real, and the plane in which they don’t exist is relatively real, and that’s equally relatively real, so you can milk it any way you want to… We all need a gig.
I think he expressed my thoughts perfectly and I wanted to share that because I wasn’t exactly sure how to explain myself because I usually think that question comes from a negative place but I wanted to answer it none the less. I have always appreciated Ram Dass and his wisdom through out the years.
“In benighted, incompetent Africa, I had never encountered an orphan: the American streets resembled nothing so much as one vast, howling, unprecedented orphanage. It has been vivid to me for many years that what we call a race problem here is not a race problem at all: to keep calling it that is a way of avoiding the problem. The problem is rooted in the question of how one treats one’s flesh and blood, especially one’s children. ”
Freedom doesn’t really mean we’re Free. There are expectations and even then it’s all a lie.
“And what the white students had not expected to let themselves in for, when boarding the Freedom Train, was the realisation that the black situation in America was but one aspect of the fraudulent nature of American life. They had not expected to be forced to judge their parents, their elders, and their antecedents, so harshly, and they had not realised how cheaply, after all, the rulers of the republic held their white lives to be. Coming to the defence of the rejected and the destitute, they were confronted with the extent of their own alienation, and the unimaginable dimensions of their own poverty. They were privileged and secure only so long as they did, in effect, what they were told: but they had been raised to believe that they were free.”
Small town Small minds Mean Bastard Bigots of all the same kind.
Can’t wait to leave, don’t want to stay, born here but not from here, always on my way. Gossips liars and fakes walk the streets in big hoofed herds. Spreading their truth , their so called motherfucking righteous gospel word.
They act high-superior while their insides slow—ly die.
Living their Inauthentic miserable cookie cutter lives.
They Sound the same Look the same …Smoke their Marlboro cigs.
High School, Marry, Buy a house…2.5 kids.
Drink your Beer, Vote for Trump, Drink the worm at the bottom of the Rum
I need To leave, I can’t breathe here, it’s a small town Blue-Collar Asy-lum.
Have you ever heard someone say But it’s Tradition?
Or why can’t young people just celebrate traditionally or act in a traditional manner? There are even some people that associate traditions and family values as a synonymous parallel.
You will hear certain politicians talk about American tradition or Family values.
Traditions can be many things. It can be Holidays, Sporting events, Music, Clothing, Food and Drink, Language, Religion. Because America is a huge ” Melting Pot” the lines are more blurred than ever and people can get frustrated , confused and down right ornery about it.
Over a very traditional Easter dinner on Easter day we were celebrating in a traditional manner. There was family, prayer and Easter egg hunts with colorful Easter eggs and candy.
Someone mentioned my new car and I was telling my family that I named him. My brother-in-law said him? Its supposed to be a girl’s name, cars aren’t named after a male’s name, it is always a female name.
I said yeah I know that, but I’m a girl so I named it after a guy. He said but traditionally its always a girl’s name. I said yes, because Traditionally everything was seen from male’s point of view, a man’s perspective. I mean think about it, who were making all the car ads in the 50’s 60’s 70’s 80’s , men were so of course they are going to name all the cars after women. The whole advertising world taught us that cars were a masculine thing, an extension of the male ego and sexual libido. He didn’t disagree.
Everything was to please the man, the white man if you want to clarify. Just look at all the magazine ads from back in the day, it was all to please men, not women. Even products that were meant for female consumption, for the wife and the home maker; products like perfume, Tupperware and even Jello still had advertisements directed to woo over the men first. Woman were secondary. They were not considered the decision makers or the money spenders and ads were usually made to appeal to king of the castle. Men were the kings. That’s how it was.
So who cares about car names anyway but it made a very simple point. Just because something is a tradition doesn’t mean it is good for us or good at all for that matter. It made me think about how easy it is for us to stay in our same thinking patterns even though it may be slanted, bent and we’ll just wrong. These are the same thinking patterns that get us into trouble time and time again.
The inability to think in a inclusive manner and stop falling back into what is comfortable to us. We need to be more aware and re-teach ourselves for out own good, LOVE THY NEIGHBOR, all kinds.
Some American traditions have been steeped in anger, fear, sexist, racist and maniacal tendencies. Burning woman at the stake, Lynching, Hazing, Male Only and all White Only establishments are all American Traditions.
Most of us were NOT brought up on inclusive ideology. For our own good we need to unlearn sometimes and that’s ok. Unlearning and re-training our minds is what we all need to do at times to keep America strong. To keep our hearts strong.
It scares me to see the front running Republican Presidential Candidate is running on the back of non-inclusive thought. To be riding the FEAR train and picking up more and more passengers along the way. The fact that he is running on all those traditions I just mentioned, anger, fear, sexist, racist and maniacal tendencies and people are responding. People are responding to their fear and they don’t even know it.
I’m am scared. I’m very scared.
Next time you say BUT IT’S TRADITION think again. Think Twice.